Be my happily ever after… ___________________________ We all know the story. Two people meet, fall in love, decide to become a lifelong couple and live happily ever after, roll credits, The End. _____________________________________________________________ We all want our happily ever after, so why isn’t it happening all over the place? Why do people split-up, divorce, and go their separate ways? __________________________________________________________ I think it’s because we have it in our heads that once we’ve reached happily ever after, that’s the end of our having to make any more effort towards making the fairytale come true. _______________________________________________________ People don’t stop growing and changing just because they’ve become part of a couple. Love isn’t something you acquire and then forget about it. People are dynamic — ever evolving — by themselves and in their relationship to each other. The energy from that forward momentum can be used to break the relationship or make it stronger. The key to making it stronger is honest communication and the desire by both people to keep their union. __________________________________________________________ Happily ever after is just the end of the first chapter in your fairytale. You write the rest of the book together with your love. And it never ends…
our soul is our tombstone
and what we write there
is for eternity
It’s no big secret that people make assumptions and tell lies in the pursuit of sex and\or love. It’s also no big secret that assumptions and lies are bits of time-released corrosion to a relationship. We are all guilty of it.
I don’t want that in a relationship anymore. I don’t want to do it, and I don’t want it done to me. Why? Because making assumptions and lying show a lack of trust. They say, “I don’t feel safe enough with you to show you how I really think and feel, so I’m going to try and manipulate how you perceive me.” The problem with that is the hidden statements of “I think you aren’t smart enough to see through what I’m doing”, and, “I’m making the decisions in this relationship.” Those are the spots of corrosion that will eventually undermine the whole relationship.
Be honest with me. Trust me enough that when you decide to reveal something to me that you think might impact the relationship negatively, that I love and care about you enough not to let it break us apart. A relationship requires two people to make it work for both of them. It isn’t always easy — no one ever said it would be easy — but if the two people are willing to work together, they can build something lasting with their love.
And that’s no big secret.
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